Pride Month post #17

[aadler]

I don’t even know how many times I’ve heard it, mostly on TV (and in either an apologetic or an accusing tone of voice): “There’s nothing wrong with being gay.”

I genuinely can’t remember if anybody has ever said it directly to me. Certainly not within the last several years … because if anyone had, my response would have been, “How’s that?” (Meaning, I don’t understand your reasoning, can you explain it to me?)

Since it never actually happened, there was no follow-up conversation. Given the exchanges I’ve seen on-screen and online, I’ve imagined how such follow-up would have gone … and my imagination has the opposite party declining to offer any reasoning — or evidence, or logical progress of any kind — and going immediately to attack: “You think there IS something wrong with being gay? HOW DARE YOU???!!!”

Don’t forget, this is based on the absence of logic or of decent debate from leftists I’ve seen in media (the same media that so virtuously defends All Things Gay). Don’t bother with argument, because they might argue back. Forget reason and logic, the person who disagrees with you might have better reasoning than you. Just start calling them names, that makes you an automatic winner. I mean, that’s like in the rules, man!

Well, unlike my imaginary interlocutor, I do actually have reasons for doubting the Nothing wrong with being gay mantra. It’s relatively simple.

It starts with the question, What is sex FOR? Why does it exist at all?

The answer to that is pretty simple. Here’s a hint: another name for the sex organs is the reproductive organs. So sex exists in the first place for the purpose of reproduction.

Oh, sure, we engage in sex for a lot of reasons (primarily because it feels so darn good), and put a lot of things into sex, and get a lot of things out of sex. Sex is tied into almost everything that has to do with being human … but it didn’t start with humans, it’s a fundamental fact with all mammals and most animal life, period. At bottom, sex is there for reproduction, and the pleasure of it, and the compulsion that pushes it, simply serve to increase the probability of successful reproductive behavior.

So, when you have someone all of whose ‘reproductive’ impulses and activity are focused on the explicit class of people with whom actual reproduction is impossible? That means your reproductive drive is out of whack. That pretty much definitionally shows something wrong with you.

(This does not, by the way, apply to ‘bisexuals’, or anyone who makes a habit of engaging in quasi-sexual behavior with various partners regardless of gender. That’s plain old perversion, focusing so indiscriminately on your own pleasure that you don’t care whether you’re sticking it in a man, a woman, a donkey, or a knothole. Perversion.)

I don’t know where homosexual orientation comes from. I’ve considered and checked out various theories, and none of them satisfy me. (‘Born that way’ may be true, but hasn’t been proven, and the so-called ‘gay gene’ remains stubbornly undiscovered. Domineering-mother/passive-father? seems just a little too pat, and again remains unproven. ‘Learned behavior’, indoctrination into sexual practices that wouldn’t have come naturally to the individual absent such indoctrination? almost certainly true for some, here and there, but that just doesn’t cover enough ground to explain the whole issue.)

I don’t know, and I wish there was something that did explain it. Even an explanation, however, would be entirely separate from establishing homosexuality as being any kind of ‘normal’.

Because insisting that it is, doesn’t make it so.