Most of what has been going on in my life lately has been about people around me, rather than about me directly, and I wasn’t sure how much it was okay to talk about those things. I’ve been given approval to address them, though, so:
Main item — sroni (my daughter) miscarried. It was still early enough that it required medical analysis to confirm that this was what had happened, but they did so confirm. My wife and I went through that once (I understand that it’s fairly common, more so since pregnancy tests now offer earlier and earlier diagnoses), and I remember how much it hurt, and how it was a pain we couldn’t really get hold of, so I have some sense of how sroni felt and still feels. But, of course, not as strong a sense as if I were myself female.
At almost the same time, we now have news that my son’s wife Mei-li is pregnant. For a brief period it appeared that we’d have two grandchildren arriving within a few months of each other; now only the one is still hopeful.
I can’t believe how close Christmas has come before I really noticed how far along we were in the month. I mean, we’re less than two weeks from the New Year now, and it just purely snuck up on me.
Things aren’t bad now (far from it), but I still hope they get better.
Posting for Phase 3 of this year’s Circle of Friends Remix (cof_remix) was today. Newcomer velvetwhip was the only participant who managed to meet the Phase 3 deadline, though sroni and I are still working on stories we may add later. See velvetwhip’s submission, “Defining Moments”, and offer the feedback it deserves.
Thanksgiving at Susan’s niece’s home; sroni was with us, and formally announced her pregnancy, at which point the niece observed that this would be the continuation of an apparent tradition.
Susan was 14 when the niece was born. The niece was fourteen when sroni was born. sroni was 14 when the niece’s first daughter was born. And now the daughter will be 14 when sroni’s child (a girl, if the tradition holds) is born.
How much further can it go? We’ll just have to see.
I’ll be writing end notes for “Twilight’s Last Gleaming” this week. The questions I normally address in a (Backstage Series, non-remix) story are:
- Where did the idea for the story come from?
- Is there any particular meaning in the title?
- Is this my favorite story? one of my favorites?
- What is the thing I like most about this story? the thing I like least, or about which I feel most doubtful?
- Is there anything I think I could have done better, or might do differently if I had it to do over?
- Do I have any plans to follow up on this story, or to use the character(s) or situation in a subsequent fic?
Not for any particular reason, I haven’t made any allusion to several fairly significant recent life events. Didn’t do it at the time, because I was busy with other things, and left it unmentioned as time went by because I wanted to tell it in the right way (without caring enough to give it that much thought). Eventually, though, the weight of the unspoken comes to nag for relief. So here are the pertinent facts:
My son got married. Back in April, and he and Mei-li are back in China now. He’s talking about them moving to the US sometime next year, though recent events raise the possibility that they’ll do it sooner than that.
My daughter got married. (Yes, sroni.) This was in July, and though she was able to attend her brother’s wedding, he couldn’t be at hers because of the China thing. On the other hand, several members of her husband’s family flew in from Ireland for the ceremony, and we had them around for visits and sightseeing and even attendance at my wife’s annual family reunion. Conal is back in Ireland right now, interviewing at various prestigious firms, and sroni is living with a girlfriend and working to build up a cash fund till the time comes to go join him. (And there is now significant evidence that she’s pregnant, so even if they were inclined to wait much longer, that would probably override it.)
I’m no longer working as a long-haul truck driver. I really liked the life, but it was hard on Susan for me to be away so much of the time and then gone again after only a few days back. I may do it again some time in the future, but more likely I’ll settle for something closer to home.
And that’s it. Any other life updates I feel like mentioning, can now be assessed in proper context.
In Phase 2 of this year’s Circle of Friends Remix (cof_remix), the participants were allowed (if they wished) to remix anyone else who had signed up this year. The results are as follows:
aadler remixed eilandesq, with “Rough Trade”
eilandesq remixed sroni, with “Improvising Modesty”
sroni remixed velvetwhip, with “Love is Only Heaven Away”
dragonyphoenix remixed eilandesq, with “the Witness”
Two remixes in two months is noteworthy output, and there are some good stories there. Phase 3 awaits; let’s see who’s masochistic enough to go for that one!